When Jim and I were first married I had a hard time adjusting to life in a new town where I didn't really know anyone or have any friends. Yes, I live with my best friend, but I always knew that I needed a girlfriend because it's so important to me to have another female to talk with and spend time with. From the time we moved here I prayed for a friend - not just someone that I could hang out with, but someone I really connected with, someone I could be honest with, someone who I could be my weird self with, someone I could screw up around and know that they didn't judge me or think differently of me, someone like the friends I had in college. That is what made it even harder for me - my college friends are some of the most incredible girls I have ever met and now they were not just around the corner available on the spur of the moment to hang out.
Luckily I found a friend. Ha, that sounds so funny, but it's the best way to say it. Over the summer two of our friends got married and moved to Thousand Oaks. I have bonded with this new friend and she is just around the corner and ready to hang out anytime. I am more honest with her than I usually am with new friends (or any friend for that matter) - I don't feel like I have to be all together - I can just be me and we have amazing talks. We talk about marriage and everything that goes with that, family drama, theology and our faith struggles. We have cried together and laughed a lot together. I am so thankful for this new friend - she is a breath of fresh air for me and an answer to what I have prayed God would bring for the last 3 years.